Are you looking for tips on how to manage being a stay at home mom? This is a great topic for those of us that are stay at home moms. These tips can also apply to working moms as well. The word “manage” is a great description of how to function as a stay at home mom. You’re the “manager” of your stay at home mom position.
Being a stay at home mom didn’t feel desirable to me. My goal was to be a successful working mom. The funny thing is I didn’t think much beyond that. I had parents that worked really hard to provide all of our needs and that’s what I wanted to do for my family.
I decided to take the path of Real Estate and I was very blessed with success. My husband was working a Monday through Friday job. The only drawback was I didn’t see him much on the weekend. Our schedules were conflicting a little bit but we still managed to spend time together.
The problem started when I got pregnant with my twin girls. I started wondering how I was going to work and take care of them. Without going into a ton of detail the stay at home mom idea started going through my head. How was I going to be a stay at home mom? In 2005, there weren’t many topics online about how to manage being a stay at home mom.
There were a few different reasons why we decided that I should be a stay at home mom. Here are the biggest ones:
I missed my babies. You never have a full understanding of how much you will love your children until they are here.
Child care was a fortune. I can’t imagine what it costs today. Three kids in childcare costs at least $100 per week per kid. That’s a minimum of $1200 a month for my kids.
I was missing lots of family time doing Real Estate. Even though I was making good money, the money wasn’t worth missing the family time.
I couldn’t fulfill my biblical role of being a Proverbs 31 women. I couldn’t keep up with the household especially after my kids were born.
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So there you have it, those are the reasons I’m a stay at home mom today. We made a lot of financial sacrifices to get here. Our budget was super tight but we trusted that the Lord would provide and He did.
Now that I’ve been a stay at home for 10 years, I want to share what helps me to manage being a stay at home mom. I’m hoping these tips will help you in your journey. Whether you’re already a stay at home mom or are working to be a stay at home mom these tips are for you.
How to Manage Being a Stay at Home Mom
1. Get Ready for the Day
It’s really easy to stay in your pajamas all day when you’re a stay at home mom. You will feel refreshed and more productive if you get up and at least change out of your pajamas and brush your teeth. My husband comes home for lunch every day so I try to look presentable for him. I’m not talking about being completely ready to leave the house but looking refreshed.
2. Implement a Schedule
I’m a schedule-driven person. You can ask anyone that knows me and they would put me in that category. The reason I’m schedule driven is that your day can be unproductive when you’re a stay at home mom. You need to make your day work so you can be productive. Staying at home doesn’t just mean you’re hanging with the kids all day.
It means that you’re keeping up the household. There’s a lot of time involved there. If your kids aren’t school age yet, then obviously your schedule won’t be as structured. My girls are 13 yrs old and my son is 9 yrs old so we have a much tighter schedule now.
3. Exercise Often
I’ve been able to set up my schedule to workout every morning. I have to wake up at 5 am each day in order to achieve this. Doing things before the kids wake up is less stressful. Exercise allows your body to release feel-good endorphins. The feel-good endorphins help you relax and keep you thinking positive. This is a great way to start off your day. I love using the Marcy Recumbent Exercise Bike for my cardio every morning.
4. Don’t be Afraid to Ask for Help
If you need help or a break from your kids, ask for help. You may want to run some errands or go to the grocery store without the kids. Find someone you can trust and ask if they can help you.
5. Connect with Friends
Being a stay at home mom can get lonely. Look for opportunities to join a local moms group, church group or a co-op of some kind. I met most of my friends through a bible study at my church. I was able to establish good friendships for me and my children. To this day, my friends and I help each other out with our kids.
6. Let Kids Play Independently
One thing you want to do is teach your kids how to play without you. Sure, it’s fun playing with your kids but if they rely on you to play all the time you won’t have any free time. Independent playtime helps children learn on their own and explore.
7. Always Leave Prepared
It’s really nice to go on an outing with the kids. The one thing that makes it not fun is when you’re not prepared. For example, If you’re going to a friends house for playtime make sure you have clean clothes available just in case your child gets dirty. Not being prepared will mean you have to shorten your time out because you’ll need to run home. One thing I always do is bring snacks with me when the kids and I go out. They always seem hungry.
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8. Make Time for Yourself
It’s easy to get to the end of your day without doing anything for yourself. There’s nothing wrong with taking time for yourself. Take a look at your schedule and see where you can fit time in for yourself. I usually take time for myself early in the morning before the kids get up and after dinner when my husbands home.
9. Don’t be Hard on Yourself
Parenting is hard. Especially when you’re doing it all day long. Things are going to happen. Your schedule is going to be interrupted. Give yourself a break and accept things for what they are. I used to hold myself to such a high standard. I was only stressing myself out and it wasn’t worth it.
10. Be Prepared for the Next Day
It’s such a great feeling to go to bed at night. All the craziness has ended and you finally get to rest. You can think about your day and change things around if needed for the next day. It’s a trial and error process to see how you and your kid’s function. It’s such a nice feeling when you figure out what works best.
I hope you enjoyed my ideas on how to manage being a stay at home mom. Following these tips will help you get a better idea of how you should plan your days. They’ve really helped me to be a better stay at home mom.
Are you a stay at home mom? I’d love to hear any tips you may have. We can all help each other on this journey!